Growing up, I was pretty sure at an early age that my life wouldn’t be the same as a lot of my neighbors. I was a child of divorce, which made me stand out in my conservative Midwest hometown. I was also gay and the minute I realized that, my dreams of having the chance of a marriage – much less the wedding of my dreams – pretty much disappeared.
A lot of people have their dream weddings in mind even before they necessarily find their spouse. Me? I had no idea getting married to the man of my dreams could ever be a possibility.
Before Edie and Prop 8, before DOMA and DADT, I was raised in an era where ‘Don’t Ask Don’t Tell” was frightening progressive. I lived in an area of the country where I had never met a long-term gay couple until I was 19 years old. Until then, I had no idea that gay couples could even exist in the ‘Real World’. A long-term relationship blew my mind, so the possibility of marriage seemed downright alien to me.
Today, queer people have more rights in the United States than I ever thought possible. The LGBT community has come so far out of the closet that it’s now difficult to imagine having to settle for living in the shadows. I can have a partner, like everyone else. I can have a family like everyone else.
And I can have the perfect wedding, like everyone else.
Gay Wedding Planning Tips
For someone, like myself, who has spent most of my life dismissing the idea that I would ever get hitched, writing an article about planning your perfect gay wedding might have proved daunting. Luckily for you, dear reader, I’ve spent 10 years planning weddings and events as a coordinator.
Being a party producer for a decade allowed me to work and create more than 100 weddings during my tenure. Working and witnessing each and every one of these unions gave me different opportunities to see weddings from all kinds of angles. I mightn’t have ever really thought about what would it would take planning my perfect gay wedding day or what my perfect wedding would look like until now. At the same time, it has given me plenty of advice and insight for LGBT couples looking to tie the knot.
So I’ve brought together advice to walk you through the process of celebrating your engagement to walking down the aisle. Whether you’re still in the daydreaming and planning stages of The Perfect Gay Wedding or you and your partner are jumping into the deep end of wedding planning, these tips will help smooth the way to your Perfect Day.
The Conversation That Begins Your Wedding Planning
You’ve just said “yes!” and soon, you’ll be getting married. So…now what? The initial step in planning the perfect gay wedding is to visualize what would be a perfect wedding to you, without a sking your partner and have them do the same. While this can be done side by side – as in sitting together at the same table – it should not be a shared activity. Give each other the time and space you need to reflect and think about your own vision of perfection when it comes to your special day.
Your wedding day is the one day in your lifetime where you are permitted to have everything to go your way. At the same time, your partner also deserves the day they have been dreaming of. Your ideas may have some overlap, but there are bound to be areas where you don’t agree. It is important to avoid letting everything become a marathon of Whatever-You-Want-Babe-It’s-Fine-With-Me answers.
As you encounter issues on which you disagree, resolve the issue by having each of you answer the following questions:
- How important is this issue for me?
- How important is this issue for the person I love?
While not every issue can be easily resolved with this system, you’ll be surprised how many can be.
Create a Shared Plan for Perfection
As you begin to blend your ideas about creating the Perfect Gay Wedding, be sure you’re hitting on all the major issues. Things like venue type, wedding rings sets, attire, color palette and whether or not to play The Funky Chicken at the reception are obvious issues most couples think of. But, in order to plan an event like a wedding, there are almost countless decisions you’ll need to make as a couple.
Lay the foundation of an easier planning experience by agreeing on a few things right out of the gate:
- Venue Type – Outdoor or indoor? Religious, formal or casual setting?
- Service Type – Do you want something religious or spiritual? If you want something more secular would you prefer a professional officiant or will you ask a friend?
- Guests – Do you want a big wedding with all of your family and friends, or a small, intimate gathering?
- Reception – Will you want to host a reception after you exchange vows? Will you plan on inviting more people to the reception that you will to the service? Will you offer dinner and drinks or just a DJ?
- Budget – In a way, this is the most important issue you need to agree on. It’s listed last because all the other issues affect this bottom line. If you’ve agreed on a formal wedding of 200 guests complete with all the bells and whistles reception, your budget needs to account for that – literally. PRO TIP: Take your initial estimate and double it.
You don’t have to go through all of the smaller details for these categories, but agreeing on the overall amount to spend will at least give you a ceiling.
Set a Budget
Establishing a budget is something that needs to be a part of your early planning. It’s important to set this boundary early – before you get bogged down in the details. When you’re in the thick of wedding planning, extra expenses can sound like no big deal. After all, what’s an extra $50 here or there? Well, it’s an extra $100, $200 or $1,000 in no time.
There is nothing wrong with having a budget. Some people choose to celebrate their big day with extravagance and others choose simplicity. Either can be expensive, so it is important for the two of you to come to an agreement early on as to how much you’re willing to spend on your wedding. A catered guest meal alone can run $15-$35 a person. An open bar costs a lot more than a cash bar, but do you want your guests paying for their drinks all night? A budget is vital.
Make Space in Your Budget For Drinks
Speaking of bar tabs, alcohol almost always plays a part in planning your perfect wedding. Whether it be the first toast, a round of beers for the Best Men or the cocktail of the night, alcohol is a key feature of many celebrations. Wine is virtually always served at dinner typically alongside a bar or other libations served throughout the day. Frankly put: a bad wedding is a dry one.
Even if one – or both – of you generally abstain from drinking, your guests probably don’t. Unless you’re hosting a wedding where you and all of your guests are in recovery or otherwise committed to sobriety, make sure alcohol is a line item in your overall budget.
How to Prioritize Your Budget Items – What You Need vs What You Want
Unsure of where to start when it comes to planning the costs? Go back to your Perfect Wedding Master Plan for some help getting started. Try breaking up the experiences you want into separate columns to give you an idea of what you’re looking at, expenditure-wise.
First, put needs in one column and by priority at the top of the list. Put wants and dreams in a second column. Put “cannot haves” in a third column. Then, go down the list from the first column to the second and deduce approximately how much each item will cost you—most pricing for venues, rentals, floral, etc. can be found online or with a simple phone call. You’ll eventually get a vague idea as to how much your wedding could end up costing you, and what you just realistically can and cannot have. PRO TIP: If you want to hire a wedding planner, check online for local rates before you flesh out your actual wedding budget. While their cost SHOULD be considered part of your budget, they can be extremely helpful in setting a budget and the earlier you use their services, the more value you will ultimately get.
Why Geography Matters When it Comes to Your Budget
The problem with knocking out specific prices right out of the gate for things lies completely in what you’re looking for. A Napa wedding where your family rents out the entire vineyard for the weekend will run you $400,000-$1.2 million. A wedding cake can be anywhere from $200 to $10,000, depending on its lavishness. Churches are often the way to go for either free or cheaper venue alternatives. Union Station in Los Angeles? $25,000 a day to rent. New York Public Library? $150,000 to rent. That church on the corner in the middle of Missouri? $500 a day to rent.
Depending on what country, state, and town, alcohol can run you anywhere from a few hundred bucks in wine to thousands and thousands of dollars for a 200-person wedding. Decent champagne is $19 a bottle. Good champagne is $45 a bottle. Each bottle will fill 8 glasses for toasting the newlyweds.
Floral for a wedding can be as simple as a corsage and boutineer with a few central pieces to displays throughout the venue and on every table. Floral is yet another item too vague to not generalize, but nice floral can run anywhere from $500-$50,000, again, depending on your wedding specifics.
It’s a rule that applies to everything: where you’re getting married, what the venue is, how many guests and literally every other aspect can all vary from city to city, state to state and country to country.
There are, however, some costs that remain the same from one place to the next. A videographer is going to cost $2000 US on average, $3800 AUS ($2000 US) and 1200 British Pounds ($2000). The main difference in pricing an American wedding versus a wedding abroad is the travel and hotel costs. Average flights to Australia from the United States are $1500 per person. Average flights to the UK from the States are $1250 roundtrip. Most flights within the United States, however, average out at $400. The UK is the most expensive out of the three in terms of hotels, which will run, on average $175 US a night. Average hotels in Sydney, Australia, run $165 US a night on average, while the hotel price in the United States is $138 on average.
(Source: The Knot)
Consider Ways to Cut Costs
Don’t kid yourselves: weddings are expensive no matter how you cut the cake. But there are lots of ways you can cut corners to avoid bankrupting yourselves before your marriage has even begun.
- Do the Floral on Your Own – This is an extremely erroneous and time-consuming task, but if you gathered a small army of your girlfriends, you could knock the flowers out in a day. Just make sure to do them no sooner than the day before and have ample refrigeration to store them. Americans spend on average $2500 on wedding florals, but you could successfully buy all the flowers for your wedding for under $150.
- DIY Your Invitation and Decorations While You’re At it – The same thing can be said about table décor and wedding invitations. Both can be completed by yourself or a group of friends for under $50. Etsy has some fabulous do-it-yourself wedding invitation kits. Do-it-yourself decorations are also a great way to save money. and can cost as little as $40 for the whole wedding.
- Ask Friends for Help– If you’re a chef or have friends that can cook, think about making the food yourselves in an additional effort to save money. Really looking for a wedding on the cheap? Try having your ceremony in a park for free! Or in a friend or family member’s home or yard. Have a friend take photos and video: photographers run, on average $2783 and $2000 for videographers. Have a friend DJ or do your own pre-sorted playlist, as DJs typically run $500-$5000 a night, depending on the DJ, time spent at the wedding, and extra erroneous factors.
- Shop Smart – Look for dealers anywhere you can find them. The Internet is full of websites that can save you hundreds – or even thousands – on everything from wedding dresses and tuxedos to sound and video equipment or even invitation packages. Check out etsy, Groupon and LivingSocial for local deals on goods and services as well as resources through the Facebook marketplace.
Plan Your Guest List
Now comes the guest list. Inviting the best people in your life can be a significant portion of how a wedding becomes so expensive. The average cost per guest in 2016 for a wedding in the United States was $141, including food, alcohol, DJ, favors, and parting gifts.
The guest list can be a make or break decision before picking a location due to size of the space and maximum-allowed occupancy. A 12-person ceremony, for instance, doesn’t need to happen in a church so massive that the wedding gets swallowed up by echoes. A 50-person service, on the other end of the spectrum, cannot happen in a courtroom or in Elvis’s one room, 10-minute marriage chapel in Las Vegas.
If you’re ever worried about who to ultimately invite and who not to include, invite the people who you know would take off work to come to your funeral. That’s a pretty good indication of whether you would want them at your wedding or not.
While you create your list, consider any special needs guests may have. Disabled guests won’t fare well at a Buddhist Temple Himalayan Mountain wedding. More practically, you’ll want to be sure you pick a venue with appropriate access. Have friends and family on the Autism spectrum, with anxiety issues or who sometimes simply need to get away from crowded places? You’ll need a venue large enough to hold your service and offer a separate, quiet space for these guests.
Split the Work and Handling the Details
After completing the guest list, designate mutual responsibility for getting errands and tasks done for the wedding. If you don’t have a coordinator or an overbearing mother-in-law who wants to control everything, it is important to divvy up the chores so that each party remains mutually invested in the wedding. If you have any family or friends helping to foot the bill, establish boundaries on their involvement early.
Lock in Your Wedding Date
While it may be the first question your friends ask you upon the news of your engagement, picking a date for your wedding is serious business that needs the above factors taken into consideration for your date to work.
Once you have a date picked out, let your guests know as soon as possible. If the date is far enough away, send out a Save the Date announcement even if you don’t know the time or location quite yet.
Make a Place for Spirituality
Who will be presiding over the ceremony? Are you looking for a pastor or just an ordained officiant? Depending upon the faith of both you and your partner and the part it plays in your lives, religion might play a decent-sized roll in your perfect wedding day planning. As it should—your wedding is as spiritual as it is a commitment ceremony combining two spirits together. It’s really up to the two of you to decide how religious you want your ceremony to be.
Hire a Wedding Coordinator – Even if Only for The Big Day
A wedding planner is highly recommended. Ideally, you would start at Step One with a wedding planner who could walk you through most of this list, but it’ll cost you. If you want a planner but are worried about the cost, consider online freelance planners who can help with the grunt work, even if they aren’t able to be there in person.
A planner can be essential if, for no other reason, they help produce and facilitate the event on the day of so that the pressure of having every single detail of the wedding go exactly to plan falls on someone else. Otherwise, it’s all down to you and your wedding party.
If you can’t afford a planner or simply would rather handle the details yourself, consider a coordinator for the actual event. Having someone who can direct caterers, oversee decorations, take receipt of flowers and handle all the other little details will leave you free to prepare for the most exciting moment of your romance to date.
Personalize Your Wedding
Some further things to think about: Do you and your spouse share a common hobby or theme? Themed weddings can be a lot of fun. Hobbies and common interests can help shape what kind of wedding you’re going to have. A mutual love of surfing might mean your wedding is beachside, a love of the outdoors could mean you wed in a park or on a lake. Themes and little incorporations of your interests into your service personalizes the experience for both you and the guests. Consider involving facets of your lives into your planning.
Staking Out the Perfect Venue
Depending on what your wedding needs are, this is a decision often dictated by your guest count – but not always. This is where your vision board perfect wedding day planning wants and wishes need to come to light and be discussed. A church wedding? A beach wedding? Grandma’s back yard? Where do you envision your perfect day taking place?
When it comes to venues, there are basically two ways to approach the problem – keep it local and simple or head out and get extreme.
Destination Weddings: Leave Home and GO BIG
Destination weddings are a fabulous twist to the traditional wedding and combine a level of vacation alongside ceremony. You want tropical beaches and stunning scenery, head to Manuel Antonio, Costa Rica as a gorgeous place for a destination wedding. This hillside village that runs along one of the most beautiful beaches on earth has gay-exclusive hotels, gay bars, and queer-owned lodging. The Moonshine Inn or Hotel Villa Roca are both gay-owned and operated, featuring several wedding packages available for gay couples.
You could also fly off to an exotic island off the coast of Thailand. Alpha Gentleman’s Retreat is a new gay men’s only resort situated in a lush, jungle setting, just steps from the gay beach—featuring the bluest, most crystal-clear water you’ve ever seen—on Samui Island off of southwestern Thailand. Alpha Gentleman’s Retreat is the only gay resort in Samui and offers amazing deals for weddings and newlyweds. Or make like the European elite and plan your wedding on Mykonos, Greece and have all your wedding arrangements with the gay-exclusive Geranium Hotel. Wedding packages at Alpha Retreat run about $3500, including accommodation and service. $10,000 will get you a beachside wedding, hotel stay, food, reception, photos, and a stay for your guests on Manuel Antonio. And $5000 at the Geranium hotel in Mykonos will provide you a wedding, with stay for a week for two, with views of the Aegaen sea.
Staying Close to Home
Of course, there are lots of amazing locations in the United States to wed as well. You can choose a popular domestic wedding destination like New York or Florida or you can center all your wedding activities close to home. Just don’t make the mistake of thinking that staying local will necessarily make a large difference in cost. The average wedding in Manhattan may cost nearly $80,000 but, across the board, the average American wedding runs around $16,000, not including the food.
If you decide to stick close to home, make the most out of special deals you can get on venues and services through websites like Groupon and Living Social. Also keep an eye on listings through your local Facebook marketplace.
When evaluating venues either local or abroad, keep the needs of your guests in mind. If you’re planning a wedding for an LGBT couple, there are some things you should consider. Seemingly simple issues like wedding attire or even seating can require a bit of extra thought when it comes to planning an LGBT friendly wedding, so look at it from every angle.
Don’t Skip the Wedding Do’s and Don’ts
With all of the positive advice that can be given, there are a few very definite don’ts and things to avoid if you want to have the Perfect day. For instance, don’t plan on having the bachelor’s party or bachelorette party the night before the wedding. For one, leaving a week or so of space in between the bachelor bash and wedding gives you time to escape after illicit activities from the party are revealed! All joking aside, you don’t want to be hung over, feeling like death on your wedding day.
- Don’t Skip the Fun Stuff! Sample your cake, taste the dishes and dance to your wedding playlist. Savor the process of planning your wedding!
- Don’t Pass on a Trial Run. Have your hair and makeup done before you decide who to use.
- Don’t Count Pennies – Watch the Bills. Being frugal is fine, but don’t skimp on key elements just to save a few pennies. Just as you shop wisely, be sure to cut costs wisely.
- Don’t Rush Things. Don’t look at everything as an endless To Do list. Instead, see it as a way to come together and blend your lives.
- Don’t Forget to Be a Little Gay. You’ve waited your whole queer life to have this day, so why not make it a little bit gay? Go ahead and have your first song be Kylie Minogue’s “Can’t Get You Outta My Head” or Britney Spears’ “Crazy”. Wear matching suits or dresses! Have pink taffeta everywhere. Get that ice sculpture of Michelangelo’s David. Order the cupcakes over wedding cake. Make frosé the beverage of choice for the night. Howsoever you choose to wed, is all A-OK, no matter how gay. This is your day, damnit!
Review Your Wedding Plan
The number one regret of nearly all couples interviewed after a few years about their wedding is that they didn’t just forgo having an extravagant ceremony and celebration and instead wished they taken an insanely cool honeymoon or invested the money into something tangible for their future.
Weddings are fabulous, but weddings are expensive. While memories and experiences cannot be replaced and can be taken with you forever, the idea of skipping the massive money pit that a big wedding can be for something smaller and simpler should be sound advice from couples with experience that you should keep in the back of your mind while planning your perfect gay wedding.
Once you’ve set out your plan and your budget, take a long look to be sure your wedding will be all about what you truly want. When you and your partner look back in 10, 20 or even 50 years, what elements will have made it a day to remember? If there’s anything you feel like you’ll end up wishing you had done, reconsider its priority level in your budget.
Planned and Budgeted – But Not Set in Stone
Lastly, you need to accept that at least one thing won’t go exactly as planned. In reality, there is no such thing as the “perfect wedding” where nothing went wrong. Life often supersedes plans. It could be something as simple as a broken glass or a drunk aunt. Planning your perfect wedding is also accepting that you have to relinquish control at some point and let your wedding happen organically. Whether or not the experience will be “perfect” or not will often depend on the person and their disposition towards life in the first place.
There are a lot of factors that one can encounter when planning your wedding day. Guests cancel. The photographer might suck. The videographer called in sick. Or the DJ got lost. The father of the groom might be too hungover. Tuxedo pants might get ripped. The flower girl or ring bearer might get lost or mess up their rolls. Nothing ever goes completely perfectly to plan. So it is best to be prepared. Have backup plans. Everyone has a phone, so assign a few friends and family to take video and pictures—you can never have enough of your day. Pack a sewing kit. Pack a kit of medicine, including aspirin. Provide clear maps and directions for all players involved. Prepare and keep a charged ipod ready to go.
Plan for and have backups for everything from the wedding dress to the venue, so that no extraneous factor can ruin your day. A great way to be prepared for the inevitable is to envision anything and everything that could possibly go wrong and be ready with a backup plan. Now, you’re thinking like an event planner!
Top Tips and Lists to Get You Going
No wedding guide would be complete without a few lists, right? Weddings are all about having fun and making the most of the time and resources you have to plan. So I’ve put together some lists that will give you a simple breakdown of what to avoid, what to consider and what’s trending now.
10 Common Wedding Planning Mistakes and How to Avoid Them
Planning a huge event like a wedding is a difficult task and a huge undertaking – that’s why there are so many professional wedding planners. Still, it’s not an impossible job, just one that is riddled with pitfalls and challenges. Here are ten of the most common and pro tips on how to avoid them.
Blowing Your Entire Fashion Budget on One Item – Whether it’s the bride’s dress or the groom’s bedazzled cummerbund, the fashion budget can’t be totally depleted on one person’s outfit. PRO TIP: Set an overall budget for wedding clothes then divvy it up before you shop. If one of you is more of a fashionista than the other, give them a bit more to spend – but agree to stay within the budget.
Obsessing About a Single Detail – Don’t get hung up on a certain kind of flower for your décor, artisanal favors you think you might have seen in an article or anything else. It can be easy to get tunnel vision and become hyper-obsessed over some small detail. PRO TIP: If you find yourself going overboard about a detail, ask a friend for a fresh perspective.
Lowballing the Budget – Many couples completely underestimate how much a wedding will cost. PRO TIP: Take your initial budget and double it.
Making Everything a Battlefield – There are bound to be issues that become arguments as you plan your wedding, but beware of letting everything become an argument. PRO TIP: When tempers flare, take a breath and a step back. If you truly can’t come to an agreement, resolve to let a round of Paper, Rock, Scissors or a coin flip settle the issue.
Taking Your Stress Out on Each Other – When you’re doing any major project it can be easy to take your stress out on the people you’re working with. When you’re planning a wedding that means you’re taking stress out on the person you love most. PRO TIP: Make time in your schedule for time away from planning. Go out on a date and declare it a Wedding Planning Free Zone, if only for a single night.
Nixing the Photographer / Videographer – Having a pro there to take photos and videos is a pretty big expense and it is one couples sometimes decide to skip. But there’s no way you’ll cover everything on your own and leaving it up to your guests is an organizational nightmare. PRO TIP: Scout around and ask local family and friends for recommendations for a photographer. Local recommendations can often reveal talented photographers who may not advertise on wedding-centric sites.
Micromanaging Your Vendors – Trusting vendors can be difficult and some couples fall into a trap of calling, emailing and texting looking for updates or adding details and more instructions. PRO TIP: Once you put in your order with vendors, leave them do work their magic. You’ve hired talented professionals – give them the space they need to do their job.
Choosing Attendants Too Quickly – When you first begin to plan your wedding it can be tempting to ask every close friend or family member to be involved. But having a party that’s too big will only increase the budget – and your stress levels. PRO TIP: Don’t decide on your wedding party size until you’ve set your overall budget.
Hiring Friends – Your BFF is also a photographer? Surely they can give you a great deal, right? Wrong. “Hiring” friends means you won’t feel comfortable complaining or being assertive and if they’re giving you a deal, they could up resentful that they are essentially working for free. PRO TIP: Your friends may be super talented and have the best of intentions but don’t work with friends on your wedding day. Just … don’t.
Not Registering – Some couples expect gifts when they get married and others go out of their way to tell friends and family not to buy anything. No matter where you fall on the spectrum, register somewhere so friends and family have at least an idea of what to get you. PRO TIP: Register at a few different places so guests have some selection in terms of items and cost. Couples who truly don’t want gifts can register with charities for friends to donate towards in their name.
The Top 10 Wedding Songs
According to a recent study done through The Washington Post, the Top 10 songs that appear most common in American wedding playlists are:
- Thinking Out Loud (Ed Sheeran)
- Marry You (Bruno Mars)
- All of Me (John Legend)
- Uptown Funk (Mark Ronson, featuring Bruno Mars)
- I Wanna Dance With Somebody (Whitney Houston)
- Don’t Stop Believin’ (Journey)
- Crazy in Love (Beyoncé, featuring Jay-Z)
- A Thousand Years (Christina Perri)
- I’m Yours (Jason Mraz)
- Hey Ya! (OutKast)
Of course, there are some other more traditional songs that still make an appearance in many modern weddings. Many couples swap out the traditional wedding march for Pachelbel’s Canon in D Minor and the Funky Chicken is still heard in wedding halls from coast to coast.
5 Tech Trends That Will Make Your Wedding Viral
Modern wedding may borrow heavily from the past, but they also forge their own way and make use of technology that can improve the experience for their guests. There are plenty of apps and tech gadgets you can use in your wedding. Here are five of the best:
- GoPro Cameras – Most people think of GoPro cameras in connection with sports and outdoor activities, but they can provide truly amazing views of your wedding. Stash one of these powerful cameras in your wedding bouquet or attach it to your dog if you include pets in your wedding. Just be sure it’s off before the honeymoon starts.
- Livestreaming – Livestreaming your wedding is a great way to let everyone attend, no matter where in the world they are. Stream the ceremony live on social media and let friends add comments and send their happiest wishes in real time.
- Your Own Snapchat Filter – Create a look truly your own by making unique Snapchat filters for guests to use when they post photos of your wedding. Create your own Geofilter through Snapchat and you can create any look you want. Snapchat walks you through the process and if graphic design isn’t your thing, you can work with companies like Filtered Vows and My Custom Snap Filter to create a filter for your wedding.
- Drones – Take your photos and videos to the next level by getting shots via drones. Many photographers and videographers use drones now and these robots capture some amazing shots. Couples have also begun using them as ring bearers to give their ceremony that extra edge.
- Selfie Sticks and Charging Stations – The best way to ensure your wedding gets the best coverage is to ensure everyone has a way to share their own experience. Add selfie sticks and charging cords to your photo area. You can pick up a variety of charging cords cheaply online or through discount stores like Five Below.
At the end of the day, what matters the most when planning the perfect wedding is you and your partner having the best day of your lives. A wedding is a celebration of your love with your nearest friends and loved ones. It’s the joining of your households and lives. A wedding is a shift and change in your life: you and your mate are establishing a future together.
So, keep in mind that the perfect wedding could be as simple as showing up at the courthouse with your two besties. Something as secret or scandalous as sneaking off to Vegas to elope, just the two of you. Having an intimate, backyard bash. Or celebrating with 200 people in a 400-year-old church. It doesn’t matter whichever is right for you. What matters most is sharing this moment with the most important people in your life. At the end of the day, planning the perfect wedding can involve really anything you want as long as you’ve got your perfect partner at your side.